Curious PARENTING Weekly Digest VII
posted on January 22 2019
TO DISCUSS OVER SPILLED MILK
Parenting articles to inform, inspire and make you laugh
Technologists know how phones really work, and many have decided they don’t want their own children anywhere near them. A wariness that has been slowly brewing is turning into a region-wide consensus: The benefits of screens as a learning tool are overblown, and the risks for addiction and stunting development seem high. Read this fascinating debate from Silicon Valley where the experts are discussing how much exposure to phones is OK. Here's a clue: not much.
A beautifully written article by Robin Marantz Henig on the agony of becoming a grandmother which although was joyful and thrilling, was tempered by a stinging knowledge: that her grandchild’s life would unspool into a string of birthdays she would not live to see. It's so lovely to get an intimate and honest view from a grandparent. Grateful to hear the different perspectives affected by the birth of little lives.
It takes a village, but there are no villages. This raw look at how raising kids in a villageless construct means there are more pressures on parents. This should not make us feel like failures but heroes. I hope you enjoy reading this plea for more togetherness as much as we did and think about how we can help each other more and more often.
If your belongings don’t spark joy, thank them for their service and show them the door. Marie Kondo, the Japanese tidying guru, who taught the world to kiss its socks goodbye with the novel triple fold organising principle, now has her own Netflix show in which Ms. Kondo visits the clutter-addled homes of a cross-section of Southern Californians over eight episodes that have been streaming since New Year’s Day. Tune in and see the cute Marie and her amazing ways, she has been truly transformational in my life and in more ways than one.
Do you remember learning how to write cursive in school? The neat little lines and rows of writing in your schoolbook that you were secretly super proud of. That's all about to change for the current school age generation as now, under the Common Core State Standards Initiative for “best educational practices”, it states that “cursive is no longer required to be taught” and instead will be replaced by keyboarding. Oh dear, are we okay with this?!
From our absolute favourite Parenting guru-- here is an easy to print reminder of how Improve Parenting and we promise this also means everything becomes easier. Dr Laura Markham's ideas are always simple and sane and produce the most amazing instant results. Something I learned from her and that I swear by is to show your child empathy. They don't always have to get their way, actually they are okay with it they know you are the boss that limits behaviour. But you'll get them to listen to you more if you are able to listen to them. I can see you were feeling really frustrated and that's why you threw that cushion across the room. A little hug and an understanding that frustration is normal but please try not to throw a cushion it could hurt your brother. Now would you please help me tidy it all back into place? Hugely recommend reading this!
New research on math anxiety confirms that parents unintentionally teach kids to expect that math will be beyond their capabilities. After seeing one too many examples of adults “passing on [mathematical anxiety] like a virus,” Bonfert-Taylor has an important message for math-phobic parents and educators: “We are passing on from generation to generation the phobia for mathematics... [and] as a result, too many of us have lost the ability to examine a real-world problem, translate it into numbers, solve the problem and interpret the solution.”
Especially during that critical time between 6-10 years of age, when lots of kids solidify their fear of math. Luckily there are some super practical tips on how to help kids love maths. For example normalise the subject by engaging in games (Shoots and Ladders) and books that touch on maths, simple concept like the world's biggest cake can help kids get comfy with numbers.